Definisi Bahagia Di Mata Umum 👄

Today i would love to touch a bit about how others interpret happiness. 

I just read a confession on IIUMC and I think that this is an issue. Homo sapiens lagi lagi dalam Malaysia ni terutamanya malay ada specific terms and condition untuk interpret bahagia tu.

To them,

1. Belajar tinggi

2. Kerja kerajaan

3. Kahwin awal

4. Cantik 

5. Kaya

6. Dapat result bagus

Menjamin bahagia. No it doesn’t. trust me. 

This 5 things actually are implemented in the tv3 drama series and other silly dramas. This actually affect ourselves as these 3rd minded people around us will make us feel depressed that may lead to suicidal attempt. Dalam dunia psikiatrik it is called depressive disorder. When we think over it, kenapa orang boleh boleh go through depression???

Ni semua sebab orang sekeliling kita lah yang mengutuk bila result hancur, yang keji bila kahwin lambat, yang mengata bila tak kerja kerajaan dan yang menghina bila tak lawa. Believe it or not it is not because of ourselves, its our surrounding yang mejadi triggering factor or stressor.

This is not included the cases where malay homo sapiens yang suka jaga tepi seluar jeans or baju kurung Jovian Mandagie kau. The one that keep saying that you are sunyi just when you are not married or even have boyfriend yet. Without they knowing that you don’t want to get married yet just because you want to get your PhD or maybe travel around the world or just want to be with your family till old. Is that dikira tak bahagia? 

When what if you get married and you are not happy with your partner, is it still dikira bahagia?

When you eat alone at the restaurant people see you as a loner. People will be like “kesiannyaaaaa” padahal kau bahagia je sebab kau sebenarnya nak makan banyak banyak.

And as for me I love to jalan jalan alone sebab I need alone time where I can buy blouse without need to ask everyone do I look okay and I hate to ask them when at last they will choose their fav blouse that doesn’t suit me at all. Tu pun orang cakap I ni kesunyian. Just HELLO? Dalam kubur nanti sorang sorang jugak kan? So we need to practice . 

So, find your own happiness that enough for you without menyusahkan orang lain and please ignore those makciks kepochi mahupun homo sapiens yang jaga tepi jubah Minaz kau. 

If you are happy with a small house, eat alone, karaoke alone, go for it. When you are alone you will find calmness that you rarely get. Find your own happiness. We are born in this world with purpose. Make a good team with Allah swt and In Shaa Allah you will find your way.

“THE CULTURE WE HAVE DOESN'T NOT MAKE PEOPLE FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES. WE’RE TEACHING THE WRONG THINGS. AND YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG ENOUGH TO SAY IF THE CULTURE DOESN’T WORK, DON’T BUY IT. CREATE YOUR OWN. MOST PEOPLE CAN’T DO IT” – MITCH ALBOM, TUESDAY WITH MORRIE”